Home

Feature Article:

Minimising conflict with effective communication
Did you know there are 5 types of communication that lead to conflict? Let's look at them... Definition of 'Conflict' ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ It helps if we first define what we mean by 'conflict' * Conflict is an expressed struggle between...
...Read More


Confidence is Cool

Additional Reading

Confidence is Cool
By Oscar Bruce

Copyright: 2005
Article Autoresponder:
mailto:Confidence_Is_Cool@epublishersresource.com
Author Contact Email:
mailto:diana@forwardpromotion.com
Word Count: 749 words

-----------------------------------------------------------------
TERMS OF REPRINT - Publication Rules

The requirements for publishing this article are:

* You May Not change the content of the article, except for minor corrections for layout, typos or grammar.

* You May Not use this article in UCE (Unsolicited Commercial Email). Email distribution of this article MUST be opt-in email only.

* If you post this article on a website, you MUST set any URL's or email addresses in the body of the article or in the Author's Resource Box as hyperlinks (clickable links).

* Please, if possible, forward a copy of the ezine or newsletter in which you published the article, or if on a webpage, the link to the article, to the author.

* This article is submitted as a service by www.ForwardPromotion.com
Content is solely the property and opinion of the author.
-----------------------------------------------------------------

CONFIDENCE IS COOL
By Oscar Bruce

REMEMBER THE TIME you could not think of anything to say to the person sitting across from you in that little café or across the conference table? You stammered when they looked your way. They smiled at you, but still, there was no way you could reach out ...and you lost yet another chance to make a good contact.

REMEMBER THAT PARTY, when you were standing off to one side by yourself, and the other people were stealing brief glances at you? Still, you couldn't think of the right things to say.

REMEMBER LEAVING THAT MEETING? Just ahead of you was the person you really wanted to meet and get to know. You could not quite summon up the courage to approach. They walked away into the night and out of your life.

BY FAR THE MOST TERRIFYING BARRIER to developing relationships with strangers is learning to talk to them at the first meeting. Making first contact is sometimes fearful. Even thinking of approaching a new person makes you break out in a cold sweat.

YOU CAN'T GET THERE FROM HERE? How did things get like this, you wonder? It is because family and peer groups ripped from you at an early age the innocent social adeptness of the young. The bullying and being "cut down to size" that passes for socialization scarred your psyche. The fearful result is that you are not just shy, but gun shy. But, all that can change. It can be accomplished.

CAN THIS REALLY ALL BE CHANGED, YOU ASK? The answer is - absolutely yes. The need to grow is instinctive in the human spirit. Additionally, self-improvement is proven to be not only confidence building, but therapeutic. In fact, failure to do so creates distress and several forms of neuroses.

What radical transformation, then, would it take to reshape a shy person into an extroverted, socially adept one? Where can you learn to meet and greet any and all encounters skillfully and with confidence?

First, realize that advanced language skills are but subtle elaborations or enhancement of what we already know and do, yet of a somewhat higher order. Additional examples include listening, picking up on nonverbal cues, and having a sense of the other individual's personal space. Finally, the high-arts: being able to start a conversation with a total stranger, knowing when to wait and when to act.

IT IS OUR NATURE as human beings to seek affiliation, to make friends. But sometimes it can be hard for a person to reach out and create conversation. Most people want to like, want to love, want to connect, but they are afraid. Things get in the way of their innate desire; things like FEAR OF REJECTION or uncertainty about WHAT TO SAY FIRST.

The start of a great relationships begins with "a great opening line." It is knowing what to say first and how to sustain the conversation that gets attention and BUILDS CONFIDENCE.

TRUE AND LASTING PERSONAL CONFIDENCE flows from the knowledge and certainty that you will function skillfully and convincingly while at ease, in all social or business encounters. What helps shapes your fate is your ability to stand your ground in any confrontation - the knowledge that you will always prevail.

Self-confidence will also grow as you depend less on fortuitous happenstance, on wishing and hoping - and realize that you can make your choices and actions a consequence of clarity of purpose. You will become a stronger person as you see yourself acquiring and applying new language skills.

Total confidence is primarily rooted in possessing the verbal skills of capturing control of conversations and confrontations. It is simply a matter of knowing what to say and exactly how to say it to get the desired results. This is what the Oscar Bruce publications will put into your life.

**********************************************************
Oscar Bruce is considered the ultimate personal communications guru. His dynamic books are field manuals for mastering conversation and confrontations. His website offers several verbal strategies that can add power to your conversations at no cost. HIS FREE NEWSLETTER is available at http://www.oscarbruce.com
Products: http://future-world.com/cgi-bin/product/30302/6017

--- END ARTICLE ---

For more articles by this author, please visit:
http://www.oscarbruce.com/

For more great free reprint articles and other epublisher resources,
visit http://www.epublishersresource.com

For even more great free content go online to:
http://finance.groups.yahoo.com/group/I_Need_Content/
and
http://groups-beta.google.com/group/Quality_Content/


About the Author

Oscar Bruce is considered the ultimate personal communications guru. His dynamic books are field manuals for mastering conversation and confrontations. His website offers several verbal strategies that can add power to your conversations at no cost. HIS FREE NEWSLETTER is available at http://www.oscarbruce.com
Products: http://future-world.com/cgi-bin/product/30302/6017

 

More Reading:


Effective communication in business

Headlines how important are they for your business communication

Get Information in your home Ambient Orb

How To Get An Instant Response To Your Urgent EMail

Communicating with Offsite Workers

 
Volunteers Tips to Motivate Them

Cell Phones and TV

Feng Shui and Romance Using the Ancient Art to Enhance Your Romantic Space

How to Negotiate Effectively

Fundamentals of Headlines Copy and Design in Communication


What is VoIP?
What is VoIP? VoIP is an acronym for voice over internet protocol. A VoIP, in essence, is a computer softphone that allows you to make phone calls from your computer to anyone in the world, e.g., PC to PC, PC to landlines, or PC to cell phones. The...
...Read More

I LOVE SPAM!!!
What’s the big deal? All you read on the internet is spam, spam, spam. Spam protection this, spam protection that. Oh my God! Be careful don’t let any one see your SACRED email address! I read they even put a spammer in jail. What kind of a...
...Read More

On St. Valentine's Day, Or Any Romantic Interlude, Woo Your Sweetheart With Chocolates, Roses ... AND A Leadership Talk
PERMISSION TO REPUBLISH: This article may be republished in newsletters and on web sites provided attribution is provided to the author, and it appears with the included copyright, resource box and live web site link. Email notice of intent to...
...Read More

Are You Sabotaging Your Career?
PERMISSION TO REPUBLISH: This article may be republished in newsletters and on web sites provided attribution is provided to the author, and it appears with the included copyright, resource box and live web site link. Email notice of intent to...
...Read More

Free Internet telephony made easy! conaito VoIP ActiveX SDK
conaito VoIP ActiveX library for developers of VoIP audio applications, such as voice chat, conference, VoIP, providing real-time low latency multi-client audio streaming over UDP/IP networks. Includes efficient components for sound recording,...
...Read More